Episodes
Tuesday Aug 02, 2016
How To Maximize Every Moment
Tuesday Aug 02, 2016
Tuesday Aug 02, 2016
Monday Jul 25, 2016
How To Find Your Passion Sweet Spot
Monday Jul 25, 2016
Monday Jul 25, 2016
Monday Jul 11, 2016
Feeling BURNED OUT? This is for YOU.
Monday Jul 11, 2016
Monday Jul 11, 2016
Wednesday Jul 06, 2016
How To Stop Suffering Right Now
Wednesday Jul 06, 2016
Wednesday Jul 06, 2016
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Pain is something that happens momentarily. You might be walking down the street, near a baseball game and all of a sudden you hear a huge roar of the crowd. You look over just to see the home run ball come flying over and WHAP! It hit you in the arm and you go “OOUCCCHH!!!!” That “black and blue” welt that is about to occur in your arm is PAIN.
If three months later you are still walking around saying, “because that baseball hit me in the arm that’s why I don’t have the love of my life/ that’s the pain that caused me to lose my job..” Unless you are a fine art creator that you can’t move your arm or something – you now allow suffering to occur.
SUFFERING is what you mentally and emotionally attach to an event that allows a moment of pain to prolong into the future.
For you to prolong or let it to keep hurting for a week, a month or even the entire day that’s the meaning you’ve associated with the situation that you are allowing to repeat itself again and again and again. Let’s say you have a bad day and you lose out on a deal, lose out a couple of customers and you get fight at home with your significant other.
Then someone says “How are you doing?”
You say, “HORRIBLE!”
“Why?”
“Everything in my life is a disaster right now!”
“Really? Can’t you at least say something that is something good with your life right now?”
“NO!”
Let’s pause right here and look at the exaggeration of language. What’s going wrong in your life? EVERYTHING IS A DISASTER! Really? Stop in this moment and challenge that thought..
Every little thing is a disaster?
Can you still see? YES
Can you still breathe? YES
Do you live in a free place where you have the option of choices in your life? YES
Do you have the ability to educate yourself online with the internet or with books at the library? YES
So..everything in your life is horrible or are you over exaggerating?
There’s a lady named Byron Katie who created something like THE WORK where she has a few questions. If you have a belief that says everything in my life is screwed up – challenge it! Challenge it by saying:
- Is that true?
- Is it true all the time everyone no matter what that everything in your life is screwed up?
- Who are you when you believe that to be true? Are you the best, most passionate, determined, focus and resilient version of yourself? Or are you a frustrated, sad or wimpy beat up version of yourself?
- Who would you be without this thought?
Now the final step, turn it around. Find a reciprocal. Maybe it’s a simple – not everything in my life is screwed up right now. You can reverse it however you like but always when you release yourself from that thought and turn it around and find a reciprocal. Use it as a replacement thought.
Automatic positive thoughts come to consistently reframing and reconditioning your mind to focus on what’s great in your life instead of what’s wrong with your life. It releases the over exaggeration of negativity and the under exaggeration of positivity. It gives you a more resilient mindset. It’s not creating a false reality but it’s retraining yourself to focus on the good stuff first and once you feel resilient, confident and painless then you take on the hard stuff.
There’s a book called The Tools and in this book the authors recommend that their psychologists and therapists recommend taking pain and normally what happens is that there’s a cloud of pain right in front of you.
What they say is use the pain meaning look at the painful events that is standing between you and the outcome you want, walk towards it and start chanting in your head – I love pain! Charge right into it and what happens is the cloud soaks you in and your part of it and poof! It spits you out the other side and now you’re at the freedom you always dreamed of.
Monday Jun 27, 2016
How To Overcome Fear, Uncertainty and Pain
Monday Jun 27, 2016
Monday Jun 27, 2016
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Fear – Why is it there in the first place? Where does it come from? Why do we have it?
Fear is something that is good for us because it is our nervous system or sensory system in our body telling us, “Hey, are you prepared or are you ready for what’s about to happen?” When did this occur? If you go back to caveman days, let us say I am a caveman and I want to use the bathroom, I am about to go out then I think of my spear – do I need it or not? I am just going to the bathroom. I left it there and went to my favorite tree. Then as I do my “business” the bush next to me suddenly shakes. And what happens in that moment is that the “fight or flight” kicks in and the reptilian part of our brain takes over and this means our heart beats faster, sugar is released in our body so that we can move quickly, our adrenaline spikes, we become little bit tense, our pupils dilate, we can take in as much information as possible and move on it very rapidly. The point is, if something with large teeth is in the bush and about to pounce on us, we can get out there fast. Why? Because my body is asking me if I am prepared with what is about to happen. If I am not, it says, “Run!!!!” If I am it says, “Fight it!”
Reverse the scenario: we are heading out of the cave, we look and see our spear and say, “I am going to take it just in case.” I cruise over, have it in my hand, doing my thing, trying to relax. The big bush shakes. Now what happens, my heart beat starts racing, I get sweaty palms, I get butterflies in my stomach. Why? Because I am excited! Hopefully, it is dinner!
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What is the difference? It is not the biological response. People assume that if I have my spear with me, I will be calm and peaceful the whole time. That is not true. I’ve heard it said that the difference between fear and excitement is anticipating something in the future, looking at an event that is about to happen and FEAR is thinking about what could go WRONG with this event. EXCITEMENT is thinking about what could go RIGHT with this event.
This is something that you have to train yourself to do. Your brain doesn’t automatically make this stuff up, it doesn’t automatically go to what’s right or what’s wrong. According to research, we have 60,000 thoughts a day. 95% of those thoughts are usually the same day to day. 80% of those thoughts are negative, according to scientific research, in the way people think. That means if your brain is searching for what could go wrong, you have to purposely challenge yourself to focus on what could go right. All that means is catching yourself in the moment when your brain goes “what could go wrong?” Wait a minute, breathe first, count to 5, clear your mind and then say: What could go right in this situation? That is a simple little shift.
The other thing you could do is think about an event that might give you anxiety or fear and just ask yourself: What key things have to happen for me to feel 100% totally prepared for what’s about to happen? If you are able to do those things, the fear should subside and you should be totally confident because you have done the homework.
Saturday Jun 18, 2016
FB LIVE 11 - Evening Routine, Prevent Anxiety & Overwhelm
Saturday Jun 18, 2016
Saturday Jun 18, 2016
Wednesday Jun 15, 2016
How to OUTSMART YOUR KIDS Online with Amber Mac
Wednesday Jun 15, 2016
Wednesday Jun 15, 2016
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Show notes
Jairek: How did you come up with the idea for the book?
Amber: Last summer I became a fan of the show Mr. Robot, which is a hacking series on USA Network and I connected with one of the show’s technical advisers Michael Bizzell on Twitter and who had also spent years with the FBI doing cybercrime investigations. He is now doing security workshops and really immersed with that space and really understands what is happening from a law enforcement perspective and how kids are getting into trouble and danger.
We met in Toronto last year and started talking over dinner. I go out and promote social media in terms of how to use it and he goes out and talks about how law enforcement can protect people when using social media and dealing with certain cases where there is harassment and the dangers that take place. We both said that the question that we get asked the most at events is by parents who say, “Hey my kid is doing this. How do I protect them and what do I do?” We realized that there’s just a big need for a book to educate, not just kids, but parents and families on how to stay safe and how to protect their privacy and security. To be honest with you, we all can kind of use that even if we go out and promote ourselves, sometimes we go one step too far and think, “Oh I shouldn’t have put that out there!” Right?
One example is when DJ Khaled snapchatted his credit card. Literally, thousands of people bought stuff using his credit card online.
One of the things they say on Instagram “Consider the whole picture” Sometimes we think this is a great picture but we don’t notice that it has your house number in the photo or your dog’s tag, or whatever it might be.
J: What are the most common mistakes that are putting little ones at risk? You have a 12 or 14 year old online doing fun stuff, what are the most common things they face without their parents noticing that it is actually dangerous and needs to be watched out for?
A: I think there are two big things. Visual social media involves taking pictures and livestreaming video content, whether it is on Periscope or Facebook Live. Kids sometimes get excited about that and they forget what type of information they could be sharing. I think because social has become spontaneous there is a concern and you want to tell kids to think about what they are doing before you actually go live. Also, when it comes to privacy settings, if you look at Facebook there is some information that you think is protected, but it is in fact public information that Facebook decides not just to show. In fact you can use tools to see that information is publicly available for someone if they want to look into it. It really becomes about the information of privacy – how easy it is to have conversations anonymously online? At the end of the day education is the number 1 thing that parents can do when it comes to kids and understand what tools they are using.
J: It is amazing what people are willing to post in a place that they think is going to disappear in 10 seconds. You don’t realize what they touch on. When you post something, even if you took it back down, on most of these servers and programs even though they say they delete it, is it true that this stuff really sticks around a lot longer than people imagine?
A: Yeah, that is what people think and I think that is part of the issue with the rise of disappearing social media like Snapchat and other tools out there. The reality is just like you said, people think that it disappears forever but it’s just so easy to simply screenshot it or take a photo of it or record a video using another device of what you are looking at. So sometimes we feel safe and think it is a private tool, but nothing is private. What’s private is that if we go to one room and there’s no one around the house and we have a conversation. That’s about it!
J: That’s fascinating! Teenagers have a lot of fun but at one stage there wasn’t a recording device capturing every single moment of it for eternity. You’ve got to think back, whatever stage of life you are as a parent, think back to the things you did if they were captured, posted and reposted. It’s going to be a fascinating old generation when the young ones get there. But like you said, education, how do you go about educating? A few ways are obviously reading the book, learning more about what’s going on and how to talk about it. I haven’t grabbed a copy yet, but I’m guessing in the book you talked about the types of conversation to have and gave ways on how to go about those because it can be a little tricky..
A: What’s interesting about that piece is that Michael Bizzell talked about the security side of things and how to protect yourself and find information. I can talk about the new technology as far as what’s coming down the pipeline and what we should be aware of, but we really felt that piece was missing so we interviewed a family therapist who came in and we did extensive interviews with her about how to have conversations with your kid and when that needs to happen. A lot of parents will start a conversation and then just fly off the handle – “I saw that you did this.. I don’t like it, etc.” but it just makes their child shut down. A lot of what she talks about is coming from a point of “I saw that you posted this and it makes me uncomfortable, how does that make you feel?” conversation and really just getting in control of the interactions you have with your child around technology so that they don’t shut down. This will help make sure they don’t start using services that lock you out entirely and stop communicate with you. She gives a lot of great advice in the book.
J: I posted online about our chat and someone posted something that I have my own opinion on, which I would like to share. Someone said “It’s called love. The more love your children feel from you, the less they will have to hide things from you. So you won’t need a trick to outsmart them. It’s the ultimate trick, you don’t see it coming, can’t resist it and have no defense against it. If I could share my two cents first, I have to say I have a mom who has one of the biggest hearts in the world who would give me more love for anything ridiculous I ever did. There was never a doubt about if I was loved or not by my mom and even with the incredible, magical abundance of love that I received constantly for everything that ever happened – even the bad stuff – there was still a part of me as a kid that had some stuff I was up to that I didn’t want mom to know. (Sorry mom!) I don’t believe that’s necessarily the answer, but I think that might be a trap that some parents fall into, which is “If I just love them enough, they will do the right thing.”
A: I could not agree more and I will share my history. My mom and dad love me to pieces, are always present and supportive to me, but when I was 15 years old I kind of got into a bad crowd and started to do some things that I probably shouldn’t have been doing. My parents started to worry and they were still there. I kept a diary but my mom was so concerned that she found my diary and found out that I was up to stuff I shouldn’t be doing. She proceeded to get very involved in my life. Love is a massive part of it but when it comes to our children sometimes you do need to intervene. You do need to get involved to keep them safe.
Wednesday Jun 01, 2016
Avoid This Costly LinkedIN Mistake Most Entrepreneurs Make
Wednesday Jun 01, 2016
Wednesday Jun 01, 2016
When is the last time you generated $10,000 through LinkedIN? For most, likely never. That’s because we’ve been trained to use LinkedIN for only one thing - job hunting.
However, I recently sat down with John Nemo, a best-selling author and LinkedIN trainer, to discuss how he has turned LinkedIN into a profit generating tool rather than a job-search tool and now teaches others how to do the same.
John explains the most common problem with LinkedIN profiles is that most people write their LinkedIN profiles in 3rd party and simply focus on themselves. The real gold comes from creating, what John calls, a “client-facing profile”.
This takes the conversation from being purely focused on you to sharing how your experience aligns perfectly with your prospects goals and mission.
Smart move.
In today’s JRCtv episode, which is available exclusively via our podcast, John will highlight the 3 P’s he helps you create a system around:
- Profile - What do you optimize for? He breaks down exactly how to optimize your profile so you’re easily found by your prospects.
- Prospect - How to find your ideal prospects. What’s the best way to connect with them?
- Tune in for the 3rd and final P which will help the bottom line of your business tremendously.
The system he teaches requires only 1 hour a day and will help you break through gatekeepers and connect directly with your prospect. Pure gold.
John has graciously agreed to do some special, live free trainings online for members of the JRC community!
SIGN UP FOR JOHN'S FREE WEBINAR HERE: http://www.linkedinriches.com/jr/
It's all about how to use LinkedIn to generate more sales leads, clients and revenue for your coaching program or small business.
John Nemo is the real deal - in addition to personally rewriting my profile, he's also rewritten LinkedIn profiles for the likes of Chris Brogan, John Lee Dumas and many other big names in business and marketing.
He’s given me great pointers personally and so I encourage you to check out his free training.
Be sure to let me know what you learned and loved most!
SIGN UP FOR JOHN'S FREE WEBINAR HERE: http://www.linkedinriches.com/jr/
Wednesday May 25, 2016
Interview With John Lee Dumas from EO Fire - When everyone tells you NO... DO THIS!
Wednesday May 25, 2016
Wednesday May 25, 2016
Today, we sit down with John Lee Dumas of the crazy successful, award-winning, podcast "EO fire" (Entrepreneur On Fire) Podcast where he chats with today's most inspiring Entrepreneurs 7-days a week.
Many people have come to me when they are trying to find their passion, or how to turn their passion into a business, which is exactly why I know you’ll today’s episode. John Lee Dumas talks about his journey not only of discovering his passion when he was working in completely different fields and industries, but also how he decided to take the path never before travelled even when his mentors advised not to.
He gives brilliant insight and advice for any hungry entrepreneur out there. You’ll learn about a completely free courses, ways to save loads of money in taxes (for US residents), and an excellent new tool to make it all happen.
Check out this great interview with one of the most humble and cool entrepreneurs I know, John Lee Dumas of http://www.eofire.com and make sure to check out his podcast too!
Sunday May 22, 2016
FB Live 10 - How To Use Fear vs Fear Using You
Sunday May 22, 2016
Sunday May 22, 2016
Join us today as we chat about an important topic that causes pain, angst, frustration, stress...etc in so many peoples lives each day. We are diving in to share with you a few quick and easy steps that will allow you to use fear as a tool in your life vs allowing fear to push and pull you around in life.